I feel your pain! She was my best friend. It took a little bit, but I did get over my loss. But the last 6-7 months he would come up on the couch and sit on my chest some time it would be hard to breath lol lol lol but i know he was just showing me his LOVE for me. He was by my side for 13 years, he had a lot of spunk. I feel awful. For me, i have grieved and i still do have a little cry now and then thinking about the memories that we had shared and you never feel ready to move on but you will know when you are ready to love another. He also liked those little ball toys that rattle. But my little girl kitten keeps me busy and gives me a new adventure. When you think about getting another cat, how do you feel? :( i really miss him and he died the 24th and today is only the 25th well even yesterday i wa smissing him super badly. I check all of the kittens but couldn’t find another Trixie. I just lost my sweet girl to congestive heart failure. On July 4, he seemed normal, did all his normal activities, ate good, etc. She was holding her own and I was happy with that. Aggie, -My cat’s dead. This hits home so hard and is very similar to my current situation…How you doing now? I was petting her and trying to get her to stand up but she was not moving at all, and was looking extremely ill. I was ready a month later but my husband was not. I’m going to err on the side of validating the decision I made during the years she was allowed to be here. Your souls are forever united, and your spirits will join together again one day. Whilst this side was a silver lining, having to provide palliative care to your cat at such a young age broke our hearts. He loved me so much. And ready or not, consider that a blessing and a sign, Litzinger says. I explained to her that she is functioning normally as far as socializing, wanting to be loved/petted, purring, playing, sunbathing, etc. He gets up and goes to the r room,eats/ drinks, then comes back to me..and gets as close to me as possible and goes to sleep in my arms. I’m going to go see kittens today and thinking of adopting a new baby by this weekend but I’m scared that I should grieve more before I do, however I dont feel whole without a kitten in my home. Out with the old, in with the new. We love you to “la luna” and back, always and forever. My sister said she will take me to a shelter when shelter in place is lifted. Thank you Erica for your very kind words. I know exactly how you feel. I know it’s the first day with this sweet new cat, but I can’t explain these mixed feelings I have… There is an intensity added to my grief, and I can’t help but cry and miss my old lady even more. It was peaceful and we were right there with him until the end. You have wonderful memories of them and that will never change. I lost my Charlie in March of 2017 to autoimmune disease. I did put an application in at the local shelter and will talk to them about adopting another kitty when the time is right. He was finally able to stand up and go jump in the couch and lay down. I looked through pictures and videos and talked to her. My cat was called Fluffy, too, and I still miss her. They both seem know when I need someone to talk to. She kept me going when all I wanted to do was give up. I lost my Jack like a week ago. I was holding him the entire time. I burst into tears and he came from around the counter to hold me and comfort me all the while saying he has a 7 year old kitty back home and cannot imagine losing him. We cried and didn’t leave his side all weekend while we prepared for his death. Are we making the wrong decision? Losing Sammy is heart breaking and although I have no intention on replacing my King Sammy I am considering getting a kitten and my oldest son(15 years old) is completely against my decision. Chasca is at peace and she is looking down and telling you it’s ok, you did your best. I just lost my little girl a month ago who was 15 also. Try not to overthink the “is it too soon to get another cat?” question, and trust yourself. My husband is very much in favor of adopting a kitten sooner rather than later because he thinks it will help me heal to have a new sweet kitty to love. 5. My dogs drive me nuts sometimes with their barking woof woof woof! They had each battled chronic illnesses for a couple years, and I was emotionally exhausted after trying and trying to help them get better, and ultimately just providing as much comfort to each of them as I could. I went into the pet sanctuary not even wanting or looking to adopt a cat — and there were probably about 30 cats there we said hello to — but this particular one we accidentally stumbled upon (we weren’t supposed to be in that area of the building but we saw a volunteer go through a door and we just followed him)… she might be the one. I miss him so much. My beautiful boy Charlie was killed by a car yesterday. I placed my hands 1 upon his heart and 1 upon his head, thus began my torturous lament mixed with gratitude for this amazing companion in my darkest days and a final set of pleadings with Almighty God, I commended my boy and committed him into His hands…. After all, he was just a cat. I don’t like clocks very much anymore. I did a lot of research and praying while waiting for the results. Since then, I have had other cats, and just as wonderful. It may be tempting to rush out and fill the void left by your pet’s death by immediately getting another pet. It is what happens when we have longer life spans than our best friends. Required fields are marked *. Reading this post truly made me cry and I am deeply sorry for your lost. While no cat can replace another beloved cat — each pet, like each person, is unique — hopefully, you will open your heart and home to a new cat at some point. Some people feel the need to start totally fresh when they bring a new cat into their home after a former furry friend has passed away — not to forget about the cat friend who shared their lives, but to allow the new kitty to be her true self without any associations with sadness and grief. I didn’t desex Buster immediately. I was recently tapped on the shoulder to temporarily care for a very old cat that was abandoned many years ago. However, I feel that after an appropriate grieving period (which is very personal…I’ve found that it’s about a month for me…YMMV) the best way we can honor the memory of our fallen is to open our hearts and homes to another kitty…not as a replacement, but to give the gift of our love to another cat who is scared, alone, desperately hoping for someone to take them back to their new forever home, and open their hearts to. I’ll do my best to care for them, but they’re not the cats I miss so dearly. How do you stop feeling guilty after the death of your beloved pet dog or cat? I feel like my heart has been torn out and I can’t sleep (which is why I’m awake typing this now). You might find this article helpful on how to help a cat who is grieving: https://www.catster.com/lifestyle/five-ways-support-grieving-cat-behavior. The day before she died she purred when I held her and never failed to struggle to use her litter box. I lost my cat Holly a little over a week ago. Another consideration is your personality, lifestyle, and home situation. That was when I began to feel guilty and did a quick Google search and happened upon your blog here. She was lonely at first….confused. I lost my baby Boots on June 24, 2019. if somewhere down the road I get a new friend…how will I be able to let her/him out in the yard without watching every second…build a bigger fence? Holly is thanking you from above for taking her out of pain. And was with me through everything. When and if I get another kitty I will get her vaccines and keep up to date on them as well. We lost our girl a little over a week ago. I started up the stairs to the 3rd floor thinking, Silly Girl, Are you laying in the sun? You may miss your lost cat’s presence and personality — and a new cat won’t take that place. âAnother cat will never take the place of the cat you just lost, but in a matter of days or weeks, this new cat will love you unconditionally. For the sake of giving this new cat a good and loving life. Fast forward to March of this year (2020). The only thing that helps me move on was thinking of my life before her. Lots of things to consider. we will get a kitten or cat in a few months but we miss maximus so so much. I’ve had other cats through my life, but this relationship was unlike any I’ve ever had. I was told then he was really really sick he didnt think he was strong enough to get through it cause he had some underlining cronic problem. Is it possible to foster the kitten for a week or two, and see how you feel? It’s worse at night. I starting balling, turned off the computer and closed up the opening I’d felt. Trisha, we are exactly where you were. He deserves to be his own little man. I was partial to the idea at first but then I saw a picture of a litter of kittens that was being given away and I couldn’t help myself! Hi, in late May this year I lost My cat Luna. We did what we had to do, but by God it was hard, and the pictures in our heads are way too vivid to cope with. I feel so guilty. I couldn’t stop crying. He never did any of those things everyone hates cat to do (never climbed the curtains, never scratched furniture, never climbed up the Christmas tree, and never went to the bathroom anywhere besides in the litter box) He was a once in a lifetime cat. My 15 year old Smokey passed away on March 22 this year. My husbands Aunt suggested I get a cat. Those little gifts kept coming all day. It’ll always feel “too soon” to get another cat. I struggle with depression and self isolation. Alicia, (And I thought that was to help them live longer) I still have one of her cats from her first litter. It makes me feel a bit better but I’m not sure if I will ever get another cat in the future. He will always be in my heart and my memories. Our adult cat is mourning and he, too, fell in love with her. They may become aloof or lethargic. I know exactly how you feel. Your heart is broken, and I can tell how much you loved him. I adopted her and bottle fed her for weeks. The author hit the nail on the head. He meowed quietly a few times as if he want hurting as bad,but still couldn’t stand at that point. She has brought me such joy. He’s different from Binx, so I feel like I won’t be reminded of my orange fur ball. Getting another dog or cat after pet loss. No vet/specialist/ lab biopsies could determine what the illness was. I broke down crying with regret, what have I done? A wise woman once told me that upon the loss of our pet who blessed our life, it is now our time to rescue and bless another life. Don’t feel guilty about putting Holly down. I got him in college…he was my baby. I still have her boys and I also have a cat we rescued. He was very well socialized (we always said he was the most normal of us; my husband, me and our other little fur baby Louie). 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